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Project Optimism: A Different Kind of Hero

By Stephanie Jankowski 24 Comments

We all have that somebody in our lives who can make us laugh until we tinkle a little. In my life, that somebody is my brother. He has the gift of humor, and his impersonations are spot-on. When he was in junior high, his teachers always told my parents that he was so quiet and observant. Little did they know, he wasn’t paying attention to the lesson; he was learning all of the nuances in their speech and body language so that he could perform for us around the dinner table. To this day, Β if I see his science teacher in public, I can’t look him in the eye.

My brother and I have always gotten along well (barring those normal sibling squabbles like me giving him stitches because he screwed up my coloring), and we’ve supported each other through life’s ups and downs. I went to his baseball games and cheered him on. He visited me at college andΒ harassedΒ my obnoxious roommate. I was there the day he had to have surgery on his knee and broke down before being wheeled back to the operating room. I was there when he came out of the surgery, high as a kite, asking the black nurse why there were no black characters on Seinfeld. The minute I had kids, he was very present and active in their lives.

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Proud Uncle Mike holding a newborn Brady

My brother is a good dude. Unfortunately, he struggles with some demons (don’t we all?) and he is his own worst enemy. Since Brady was born, Mike has gained a lot of weight and is super unhappy with himself. He’s tried to lose, and has succeeded a few times, but it’s never “stuck.” Recently, inspired by my writing so he says, he created his own blog, A Different Kind of Hero. He shared the low points in his first post, and asked for readers to be his cheerleaders as he forges ahead with not only a plan to lose weight, but the intention of making lifestyle changes. His thinking is that if he tells everyone what he’s doing, we’ll help hold him accountable and support him on his journey. I applaud him for putting himself out there, calling attention to his struggles. He’s tired of feeling bad about himself, and I want nothing more than contentment in his heart. I love my baby brother and I don’t want him to be the sad clown any more; I just want him to be a regular clown again.

If you have a minute and care to share some optimism, head on over to his blog, A Different Kind of Hero, and give him your best Ra-ra Gooooo Team Mike! Today is the first day of his new beginning.

Make your own new beginning; join Anita and Anka over at their blogs, and start your week with a little bit of grace.

  1. Write about something that makes you feel optimistic. Whatever it is, write from your heart.
  2. Post MONDAYS. Nothing cures morning blues quicker than an optimistic attitude!
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  5. Encourage the person who linked up before you. Kindness is contagious!

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  1. Anka says

    January 14, 2013 at 2:43 pm

    I want Brady to be a happy “clown” again too! I will head over to his blog and give him a big ra ra rah . . .Go!!

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    • Anka says

      January 14, 2013 at 7:06 pm

      Oops! I meant Michael not Brady. Forgive me. I read this at 6:00 a.m. with a completely congested nose and head!

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      • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

        January 15, 2013 at 12:36 am

        Hahaha!! I just hope you feel better!!!

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    • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

      January 15, 2013 at 12:34 am

      I had to laugh at this; Brady is my son (Mike is the bro) and at first, I didn’t understand what you were talking about! Mondays are optimistic but also fuzzy for this Mama πŸ˜‰

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  2. michaelbarone5 says

    January 14, 2013 at 3:06 pm

    Thank you, Steph. I don’t even know what to say. You’ve always been there to support me and I cannot thank you enough. Although I may hurt you for posting that picture where my head looks misshaped, I still love you and am so lucky to be able to call you my sister. That being sad, you need to edit your post because even though I was higher than Charlie Sheen, I asked him why there were no black people on THREE’S COMPANY. There are my African Americans on Seinfeld: Jackie Chiles, the exterminator, that dude in the band with Elaine’s boyfriend, the lady that works in the bookstore where George tries to return the book, etc. Anyways, you’re killin me smalls with this inaccuracy! You’re gonna destroy my credibility! C’mon man! πŸ˜‰

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    • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

      January 15, 2013 at 12:35 am

      DANG! What do you do? Keep track of every non-white person on the show?! πŸ™‚

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      • michaelbarone5 says

        January 15, 2013 at 6:44 pm

        I didn’t mention every single person. Like Kramer’s girlfriend. Remember when he stays in the tanning bed for too long then goes to meet her father? “Ha-white boy!? I don’t see a ha-white boy! I see a damn FOOL!”

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        • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

          January 15, 2013 at 9:20 pm

          You need a hobby. STAT.

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          • michaelbarone5 says

            January 16, 2013 at 12:21 am

            my new hobby is HEALTHY

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    • motherhoodisanart says

      January 15, 2013 at 2:10 am

      That is absolutely hilarious!! So brotherly of you to show the love and point out your sisters inaccuracies!!! It so reminds me of my brother!! I definitely have to check out your blog now and go give you a big rah! rah!! And I don’t think your head looks that misshapen!!!

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      • michaelbarone5 says

        January 15, 2013 at 6:45 pm

        Haha yes I was able to hit her with the double whammy there πŸ˜‰ Thank you so much for the support and thinking that my head isn’t misshapen in the picture; I don’t know which one means more!

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  3. nothingbythebook says

    January 14, 2013 at 3:35 pm

    Beautiful start to Monday mission achieved. I think I’m going to email my brother this a.m. with an “I love you dude,” just because. πŸ™‚

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    • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

      January 15, 2013 at 12:35 am

      Thanks so much! I hope you sent your bro the email. And I hope he offers to babysit your kids in return πŸ˜‰

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  4. Jill Pinnella Corso says

    January 14, 2013 at 8:10 pm

    I love that “why are there no black characters on Seinfeld?”, so honest.

    Good for him. I agree, telling everyone you know about a goal, even if it’s uncomfortable, is a great way to hold yourself accountable. I will check out his page.

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    • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

      January 15, 2013 at 12:37 am

      Jill, I stand corrected: apparently, he asked about Three’s a Company. Who knew?! πŸ™‚ Thank you so much for your support; it means a lot to my bro and me!

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      • Jill Pinnella Corso says

        January 15, 2013 at 5:07 am

        Too funny. Three’s Company is notoriously racist. J/k I’m making that up. But your brother may be on to something.

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        • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

          January 15, 2013 at 9:19 pm

          πŸ™‚

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  5. motherhoodisanart says

    January 15, 2013 at 2:11 am

    thanks for introducing us to your brother!!! I will be checking it out!!

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    • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

      January 15, 2013 at 2:20 am

      You’re a kind lady πŸ™‚ (And I agree: his head doesn’t look misshapen.) πŸ™‚

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  6. vernette says

    January 15, 2013 at 2:45 am

    Grace is showing itself again πŸ˜‰

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    • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

      January 15, 2013 at 2:53 am

      I’m trying, woman; I’m really trying!!! πŸ™‚

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      • vernette says

        January 15, 2013 at 2:58 am

        You’re doing it woman! You’re doing it :)! I love it.

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  7. narcissista1 says

    January 16, 2013 at 3:16 am

    Your brother’s blog sounds great. I’m going to stop by and say hi once I’m finished my detox and am not licking the computer screen.

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    • whencrazymeetsexhaustion says

      January 16, 2013 at 5:04 pm

      πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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