Why I Will Never Homeschool My Kids

Am I morally opposed to homeschooling?

No.

Do I think I would be good at homeschooling my kids?

No.

Are my kids better off learning each subject area from certified, experienced teachers?

Yes.

Do my lack of patience and shoddy mathematical ability impact my decision to not homeschool my kids?

You betcha.

Listen, if you homeschool your kids, I’m bowing down to you. I really am. I couldn’t do it. I don’t want to do it. I believe in our educational system, despite all its flaws. I think, as a student, there is something to be said for the social aspect of attending school with other kiddos your age and being accountable for your behavior. Because I know when my cherubs come home, the gloves come off. They shed their “public personas” real quick-like. What was once, “Yes, please” and “I can’t have my way right this second? That’s cool; I’ll deal,” become “NOW!!!!!!!” and “THAT’S NOT FAIR!!!!!”

That said, there are extenuating circumstances. I get that. But I also get that homeschooling is not for my family. And I wrote about it for Families in the Loop and you would not believe how I have pissed people off. Pals are “unliking” my WhenCrazyMeetsExhaustion Facebook page, throwing out insults, and even sending me private messages telling me that I am “clueless” and have “no right” to my opinion.

Well, that’s just stoopid.

Read my piece HERE and let me know your thoughts. And let’s keep in mind that we’re adults who will never agree on everything, and that’s what makes life enjoyable. Debate. Intellectual conversation. Different perspectives. Wine. The good stuff.

Off with ya!

FITL

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  1. I have never met anyone in my life that was homeschooled, it’s just not common over here.

  2. This is a perfect post. Perfect. 100% completely perfect.

    P-E-R-F-E-C-T!
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  3. EXCELLENT post! I AGREE! Homeschooling is quite popular where I live and I know many moms who do it. I have a great respect for them but have no desire to follow their lead.

    • I would love to talk to the moms near you who do it; I can’t imagine what must go through their heads on “those” days. You know “those” days; where nothing we moms say is right, the slightest infraction leaves our kids wailing, etc. THOSE days :)

  4. I don’t understand the backlash. You’re NOT saying homeschooling is bad. You’re just saying YOU don’t want to do it. And I agree. There’s no flipping way on God’s green earth that I could ever have the patience or the knowledge to homeschool my own chilluns. No way. No how. Bravo to you!!! Great post!

  5. I’m with you on this one. I have a special needs child and considered it for a while…but in the end I knew I didn’t have the patience or the skill set to do it.

    I liked your page on FB (as The Latchkey Mom), hope that helps make up for the de-likings:)!
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    • Hey, Allie!! Thanks for your comments, sharing your story, and for liking me ;) Tee hee! I certainly share your lack of patience and skill set. Especially as my kiddos get older, I just don’t have the confidence in myself that I could be science, math, history–GAH!

  6. I am off to go read your page… it makes me angry and sad at the same time that people can’t see other people’s perspectives and have an open heart. Geesh. Completely wrong. SO sorry you had to endure that!!!
    What’s wrong with people?!!
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  7. Stephanie, I’m not a mother yet but I think the decision to homeschool is entirely up to the parents. I cannot believe people started “unliking” your page because you had a different POV. People can be so stoopid. I don’t have children yet but I think when I do I that’s a decision I will make then.

  8. Steph, I think you’ve done a beautiful job articulating your opinion, and you’ve made it very clear that you’re not judging anyone for choosing to homeschool. I enjoyed the post!
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  9. I read your post with interest and see absolutely nothing wrong with it Stephanie.

    As a teacher you have a full understanding of the work required to build the cirriculum and the organise your classes. You know where your strengths and weaknesses are and in some cases have more qualifications to teach than most parents.

    I see no reason to ‘unlike’ your page or post and send nasty comments. The whole point of blogging is to provide your view and as humans we all differ in that area.

    Personally, I wouldn’t home school – I don’t feel I have the qualifications and while the books etc provided may be extensive I know that if my child was struggling with a subject I don’t know well I would not be able to provide the help they need.

    I did not have a good experience at school; I was the requisite girl with glasses who studied hard and had good grades so I was picked on by a number of people. While I would not want to go through that experience again it taught me how to cope with negativity and bullying – yes those lessons were long and hard but they have helped me cope in employment as well as many other areas of my life.

    I understand that some mothers can provide the help I don’t feel I can, that they have sufficient patience to deal with tantrums on a regular basis (personally, those I had outside school hours were enough….) and that in some cases it may be useful; for example and as you say military families but it is not something I personally could provide.

    So yes, that is my view and it is the same as yours. While we open ourselves up for negative comments when we blog there is no need for people to be nasty about it. They may not agree with your opinion but what is wrong with just saying that rather than be nasty with it?
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    • You’re so right in that we open ourselves up for…anything! Negative comments, hateful spite, unintelligent conversations, etc. But it’s so wonderful finding people like you who, even though we do share an opinion, understand the “writer’s perspective,” too. The title of the piece was changed from what I originally wrote and I think that’s what got a lot of panties in a bunch. That and I didn’t “have a right to share my opinion.” Sure, that makes sense :)

  10. We expressed a similar sentiment about homeschooling (respect those that do it, but it’s not for us…at all) and we had a similar experience. Good grief! Headed over to read it right now! –Lisa
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    • Thanks for weighing in, Lisa–much appreciated! Sorry to hear that you had a similar experience in that not everyone was open-minded about your decision. Heeeeey. Wait one minute! Isn’t that why people are mad at us? For not having “an open mind about their decisions?” Weird… ;)

  11. I said this before, but I think it’s great that you recognize what works for each family…is what works for each family. Sorry for all the backlash and know that I think you’re wonderful!
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  12. I don’t get all the arguing either. I went to school to be a teacher. I taught for 8 years. I have three kids, but homeschooling never really felt like an option to me. To be honest, we couldn’t afford it. My family depends on two paychecks and there isn’t a luxury that would could give up in order to make it on one! My kids love their school and *gasp* daycare. I have no problem with most people who homeschool. I’m glad they have that choice. I’m glad I can send my kids to the public school and give them a good education.
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  13. I think anything that provides choice is a good thing, because no two kids or families or circumstances are alike and what works for one maynotwork for so someone else. My kids happen to be thriving in homeschool because it gives them a lot of time to pursue their extracurricular interests. I don’t know if they could pursue them at thehigh level they are with the addition of the time constraints of a public school day. However, we evaluate year to year because kids and situations change and homeschool next year may or may not be the best alternative. So I highly support having good quality public schools available because I like the freedom to make choices depending on where my kids are at. To me, an ideal school would be fluid with extracurricular coomunity learning, meaning kids could get some credit for reallife extracurricular experiences as well as learning in a traditional environment.–

    • Thanks for weighing in on what is apparently a very hot-button topic, Carr! I completely agree with your idea of fluidity in between the school and community. Who knows? Might even make for some more community-minded folks who want to make the world a better place :)

  14. I’m with you Steph. Hats off to those who capable, but I know I could never do it. My kids would be illiterate. Your Facebook comment on sits drew me here… we share a desire to karate chop Facebook on a regular basis. LOVE you blog and your post resonates with me, at least. X
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